Here is the question I’ve been pondering lately:

How are you curating the algorithm of your life?

If you use social media, you know about the loved and loathed “algorithm.”

As small business owners, we are constantly trying to figure out how to beat it, and then, of course, it changes.

As consumers of content, we know that more of the same—plus more of the same—will keep delivering us more of the same, landing us in an echo chamber. We become less able to see or hear what we’re not regularly seeing or hearing, allowing us to ignore anything that falls out of sync with our belief set. It’s a beautiful way to entrap yourself (and mostly your ego) in your own confirmation bias. Why be uncomfortable, challenged to learn or have empathy for another’s perspective when you can always just feel right?

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Let’s get technical for a moment: An algorithm is a step-by-step set of instructions or rules designed to perform a specific task or solve a problem.

When it comes to social media—and also our life—we get to choose the energy of our own algorithm. We have the capacity to influence it, guiding how we meander through our day and navigate life’s little and big challenges.

It can be easy to fall into the doom and gloom of what surrounds us, chasing the ongoing dopamine fix or adrenaline surge. If you’re not mindful about this, you may find yourself feeding a low-vibrational algorithm for your life. As humans, we are wired to spiral down. We are conditioned to keep our eyes peeled for threats. That survival instinct is why we still exist.

How Do We Break Free from a Living Doom Scroll?

How do we free ourselves from a low-energy life algorithm?

Recently, I was home alone for a whole week. Just me. This wasn’t in the plans, but it’s how it evolved. Suddenly, for the first time in as long as I could remember, I had no plans and no schedule. I became finely attuned to how my time was being spent. And without anyone else’s energy to bounce mine off of, I also became acutely aware of how I was feeling.

In short, I began to mindfully curate my life frequency—the personal algorithm of what I was willing to be served.

Is this easy to do?

No. Especially when you have a job, a partner, a pet, a kid (or three)—in other words, commitments, obligations, and responsibilities beyond yourself and your own basic needs.

You could also argue that when you have all of those things—people, pets, and life to take care of—you must be even more mindful of what you can control so you can capitalize on the opportunity to live at the highest vibration of life.

Is this making sense to you?

How Do You Shift This?

Start paying attention.

• Reading a novel that stirs up anxiety and makes it hard to fall asleep? Read something else.

• Using social media in a way that fuels isolation, wasteful wants, or less-than self-talk? Change who you follow or opt-out altogether.

• Working too much to avoid addressing what needs to be addressed in your life? Cushion your resilience so you can face it head-on.

When you start examining this, you’ll quickly realize just how much you have the capacity to shift.

If you’ve followed my work on energy, retraining the brain for happiness, the joyful rebellion, or taken my free coherence class, you know that I live and thrive (most of the time) by the understanding that what we generate and put out in the world will directly influence our experience of it.

This isn’t woo-woo—it’s the science of energy and the quantum field.

Just as we can choose the tone of voice we use to respond to someone, we also choose the energy we bring to our life.

When it feels like, time and time again, you’re being thrown off course—before blaming others or circumstances outside your control—first, ask yourself:

What is within my control that I can shift?

The answer will always be: Your own energy. Your own perspective. Your own response in any given situation.

Ultimately, the algorithm you are curating for your life.

A Small But Impactful Courageous Pivot

An easy shift of your life algorithm? Short of throwing your phone under the bus, start curating a highlight reel of your own life. Rather than mindlessly scrolling through others, take some time and scroll through your own camera reel. Remember the moments you have forgotten, seek out the joy and start noticing the highlights in your present day. Where our attention goes, our energy flows. Curate that algorithm mindfully, for as I said at the beginning, more of the same will deliver more of the same. Choose mindfully what you are calling in more of.

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